Jacking during Covid-19

Now it’s time for my top tips for self-pleasure and masturbation during covid-19:

Whether it’s a quick one or you want to spend some time relaxing. Spending a little time thinking about how and where you’re going to have a wank will make it a more enjoyable experience. With more time on your hands, it’s time to make use of your hands

Set the mood

Masturbation doesn’t have to be a quickie in the bathroom! You can plan your alone time just like you would anything else and set yourself up for some quality “me time.”

You can make masturbation more pleasurable by:

turning down the lights

playing your favorite erotic video

slowly teasing yourself

staying relaxed and present                                                                                                                                  

Switch Positions

There’s no reason to stick to the same routine while masturbating. Instead, add some excitement by switching up positions.

If you’re always standing, try leaning against a counter or the wall, with your hips pushed forward. If you’re always lying down, try sitting up, either on your bed or in a chair. You can even enjoy a solo session while on all fours.

Different positions mean different sensations — and that may mean more satisfaction.

Take your time

Masturbation doesn’t have to be “go, go, go” — unless, of course, that’s what you’re into. Feel free to slow down and explore what makes you feel good. You can experiment with speed, strokes, positions, hands, toys, and more during a solo session.

Taking your time to discover what turns you on could lead to a better orgasm.

Change Hands

Changing hands, just like switching positions, can cause different sensations that could lead to intense ejaculation. You may be able to widen your pleasure zone by using your nondominant hand to masturbate.

Or, if you’re feeling frisky, you could attempt “The Stranger” — you know, that technique where you sit on your hand until it falls asleep and then use it to simulate the feeling of another person giving you a hand job? Everyone’s tried it at least once.

Looking for something more adventurous? Try holding your penis against your stomach and stroking the underside of your shaft quickly with your nondominant hand.

Move your hips

Sure, it’s easy to forget to move your hips while masturbating. After all, it’s not like you’re playing with a partner. But did you know that gyrating and thrusting can help increase the intensity and lead to more pleasure? Yup!

Next time you’re engaging in solo play, move your hips in a circular or back-and-forth motion — or in whatever way feels best to you. Increase the speed as you get closer to climaxing.

Remember, masturbation doesn’t have to be the same every time!

Try different strokes

Moving your hand in an up-and-down motion is a tried-and-true masturbation technique — and for many people with a penis, it almost always leads to an orgasm. But why keep solo play boring? Experiment with different movements for a more profound and powerful experience.

You can use long, twisting strokes from base to tip. You can palm and pull your penis head while masturbating with a full-hand grip. You could also add a little bit of rubbing to the classic three-finger grip.

Just play around with different stroking styles to find the one that feels more pleasurable for you.

Try edging

Want to prolong your play date? Incorporate the start-and-stop method into your next solo session. Orgasm control, also known as “edging,” draws out the pleasure so that you can have a longer, more explosive experience.

Try it out by stroking your penis right up until the edge of ejaculation, then stop completely. Slowly begin to masturbate again, increasing speed until you’re ready to finish, then pull back again. Repeat this process as much as you’d like.

The bottom line

Masturbation is a healthy, natural way to explore your fantasies and discover what makes you feel good. Plus, there are so many health benefits to solo play: you feel less stress, you boost your mood, you sleep better at night, and you get a sexual release.

Honestly, you should enjoy a little one-on-one time with your body as often as you’d like.

Of course, if you’re new to masturbating, that’s perfectly OK. Just remember that there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate, so take your time exploring your body and all those things that turn you on.

Experiment with styles, toys, and techniques. Do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable, and enjoy every second of it!


Safewords are everything.

Even on the phone, safewords should be encouraged. A safeword is simply a word to either slow or stop play if it's getting out of the subs comfort zone. (stoplight words are the typical go-to) green = all good yellow = pump the brakes red = full stop


This came to mind when gonzo porn is implementing safewords:

Subs Are in Charge

Although bottoms feign subservience, the irony of BDSM is that the sub is in charge. Bottoms can invoke the stop signal and tops vow to obey immediately. Meanwhile, tops act dominant, but they must also be caring and nurturing, taking bottoms to their agreed-upon limit, but never beyond it. In this way, BDSM provides an opportunity for everyone to experiment with taking and surrendering power, while always feeling safe and cared for. People who enjoy BDSM say it results in amazing erotic intensity.

Weird getting to know DJ questions.

What is your most favorite scene from movies? The number 23 when Jim Carrey and Febretzia are engaging...super super sexy

If you love snakes, which one is your favorite? I do love snakes! I worked at a nature museum and became quite fond of a boa constrictor and a king snake (another constrictor, but smaller)

Do you love music? Which genre is your favorite? Yes I love music! Country for the win!!

Please tell me, which one is your favorite: Old school rap or today’s new age rappers? gut reaction makes me want to say old school...but I do think lil' pump is a cute lil' so and so...

How tall are you? Have you dreamed being ever taller? 5'8 when I was little I wanted to be 6' dunno why

What is your favorite number and please tell us, why? 8 and I'm not entirely sure though I'm sure many would make reference to dick size...it's always been 8...favorite golf club...all sorts of things...maybe it's an infinity thing..

Have you ever been on any bridge? Do you like bridges? yes I've been on quite a few, I love bridges...old wooden ones (covered) are awesomesauce.

Do you have fear of anything? If it’s not secret, please tell us what you fear the most? the dark.

Where are you working right now? the couch in my living room

Which ocean is your favorite and why? pacific. closest, warmest...BUT i was in the meditteranian sea as a late teen and you float soooo easy because it's so salty and warm...mmmm I call a tie.

Have you ever been in Europe? Where? Yes! England, France, Germany and Greece (though I don't think Greece is part of the EU.) but it's not far...

Do you love history? Did you have high grades in history classes? NO! I hated history it was right after lunch - I eeeeeked by with a c- I deserved a worse grade than that.

Who is your favorite king in world’s history? hmm well first I will say Jesus (King of Kings) but for earthly type realm if Napoleon counts (he was an emperor) I'll go with him...if he doesn't count I'd have to go for King Solomon (biblical)

Do you believe that Trump will make America great again? America is and will always be great. I think 45 is dead set on imploding the country.

What do you think about the Russia’s Leader Putin? I don't know the man. I think he has the right sort of presentation to be a world leader.

How do you describe yourself? country AF, funny...not sure what else to say.

Take time to decompress - self care - relaxation

When I was in fourth grade, I had a teacher: Mrs. Rollins. She was into yoga and all things "hippy dippy" (my words for her back then) but she taught us...at that young age guided body relaxation. Her method was a little different. We'd imagine a glowing white light travelling through our body...relaxing all the places that light touched. Same concept though...so please give it a try.

Other helpful tips:

hydrate -being dehydrated can throw the body into a state of dis-ease (disease) but it upsets the natural balance of your body without enough water.

exercise - move for at least 30 minutes. If your mobility is limited, then stretch your legs out, and your arms...breathe deeply.

write - write out the things that are troubling you. Look at it honestly, then problem solve the perceived problems one at a time.

aromatherapy - lighting a candle or incense can bring peace to your space and mind.

be kind to yourself - positive affirmations - look in the mirror and say to yourself 5 positive things.

be grateful - make a list of 5 (or more!) things or people you're thankful for!

consider a change - if work or a situation is the causation of your stress: consider changing that situation. (get a different job, move, etc)

Guide to Prostate Play

The prostate is a chestnut sized gland in people born with a penis that is often referred to as the ‘male G-spot’. Stimulating this gland has the potential to create longer, more frequent and more intense orgasms. What’s not to like about that? However, this sexually fulfilling experience is seemingly off limits to mainstream, heterosexual culture due to homophobia and outdated sexual values. These misguides opinions are preventing many from exploring their prostate and the experience to be vulnerable and receptive to penetration. But all sigma aside, sex is about feeling good and exploring your intimate self, so if prostate play is something you’ve considered, why not give it a try?

The prostate gland is often misunderstood in its function and placement. The prostate is located just a few inches inside the anus, towards the belly, near the root or internal beginning of the penis. The prostate creates a fluid which is released with ejaculation to help sperm move quicker and live longer. Prostate fluid makes up to 30% of the fluid in an ejaculation and is the reason for the bitter tastes. The prostate is located just below the bladder and very close to the urethra. An enlarged prostate is common, especially with age. Because of the proximity to the bladder and urethra, if the prostate becomes enlarged enough, it can cause urination issues. The cause of enlarged prostate or benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) is unknown yet usually isn’t dangerous.

Stimulating the prostate can have more benefits than just better orgasms. This stimulation can help flush out the prostate and increase blood flow to the pelvic area. It can help impotence and provide some cancer prevention, yet it’s still important to get regular screenings with a doctor. Prostate play is also a great option for those with erectile disfunction or persons who don’t want to engage their penis during sex.

Massaging the prostate can be done inside or outside the body. External stimulation can be done by either a finger or a firm, bulb ended toy, like the Njoy pure wand. Press the area between the anus and the testicles, sometimes referred to as the taint or perineum. Internally, the prostate can’t be touched directly but stimulated through the rectum wall. Whenever touching your own or someone else's prostate, insure your nails are short and free of any sharp corners. Ideally use a protective glove or slip a condom over your finger. Try to use the pad of your finger and not the nail or tip. It’s also a good idea to have a few wet wipes around for quick cleanup.

Use a smooth, long lasting lube, like Uberlube and enough to cover your finger and anus area. Your palm should be facing the body and move slowly until you identify the gland. The prostate swells when aroused, making it easier to locate, so some sexy foreplay beforehand can be helpful. Move with a slow ‘come hither’ motion to gently massage the gland. Self prostate massage can be tricky and an act of sexual contortion, so using a sex toy could make it easier. A non-porous toy that is curved in shape is ideal. The Pfun Plug Butt Plug is not only the perfect shape and material for prostate play but also has a flared base to insure it doesn’t get lost inside your body. Either gently move to toy with your hand or engage your PC muscles, pulsing them rhythmically. Using a toy that vibrates, like the Tantus Prostate Play Butt Plug, is also a sexy option to explore. Changing positions will change sensation so keep that in mind when trying to find your sweet spot. For more information about the PC muscles and how they can help your orgasm, see Wild Flower’s guide to kegels.

Not everyone orgasms from just prostate stimulation so stimulating the penis at the same time can add to the pleasure. However it isn’t common for prostate owners to experience ‘dry orgasms’, allowing for multiple orgasms without ejaculation. Ejaculation orgasms require a waiting period between each one, while dry or prostate orgasms do not.