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Set the mood
Masturbation doesn’t have to be a quickie in the bathroom! You can plan your alone time just like you would anything else and set yourself up for some quality “me time.”
You can make masturbation more pleasurable by:
turning down the lights
playing your favorite erotic video
slowly teasing yourself
staying relaxed and present
There’s no reason to stick to the same routine while masturbating. Instead, add some excitement by switching up positions.
If you’re always standing, try leaning against a counter or the wall, with your hips pushed forward. If you’re always lying down, try sitting up, either on your bed or in a chair. You can even enjoy a solo session while on all fours.
Different positions mean different sensations — and that may mean more satisfaction.
Take your time
Masturbation doesn’t have to be “go, go, go” — unless, of course, that’s what you’re into. Feel free to slow down and explore what makes you feel good. You can experiment with speed, strokes, positions, hands, toys, and more during a solo session.
Taking your time to discover what turns you on could lead to a better orgasm.
Changing hands, just like switching positions, can cause different sensations that could lead to intense ejaculation. You may be able to widen your pleasure zone by using your nondominant hand to masturbate.
Or, if you’re feeling frisky, you could attempt “The Stranger” — you know, that technique where you sit on your hand until it falls asleep and then use it to simulate the feeling of another person giving you a hand job? Everyone’s tried it at least once.
Looking for something more adventurous? Try holding your penis against your stomach and stroking the underside of your shaft quickly with your nondominant hand.
Move your hips
Sure, it’s easy to forget to move your hips while masturbating. After all, it’s not like you’re playing with a partner. But did you know that gyrating and thrusting can help increase the intensity and lead to more pleasure? Yup!
Next time you’re engaging in solo play, move your hips in a circular or back-and-forth motion — or in whatever way feels best to you. Increase the speed as you get closer to climaxing.
Remember, masturbation doesn’t have to be the same every time!
Try different strokes
Moving your hand in an up-and-down motion is a tried-and-true masturbation technique — and for many people with a penis, it almost always leads to an orgasm. But why keep solo play boring? Experiment with different movements for a more profound and powerful experience.
You can use long, twisting strokes from base to tip. You can palm and pull your penis head while masturbating with a full-hand grip. You could also add a little bit of rubbing to the classic three-finger grip.
Just play around with different stroking styles to find the one that feels more pleasurable for you.
Want to prolong your play date? Incorporate the start-and-stop method into your next solo session. Orgasm control, also known as “edging,” draws out the pleasure so that you can have a longer, more explosive experience.
Try it out by stroking your penis right up until the edge of ejaculation, then stop completely. Slowly begin to masturbate again, increasing speed until you’re ready to finish, then pull back again. Repeat this process as much as you’d like.
The bottom line
Masturbation is a healthy, natural way to explore your fantasies and discover what makes you feel good. Plus, there are so many health benefits to solo play: you feel less stress, you boost your mood, you sleep better at night, and you get a sexual release.
Honestly, you should enjoy a little one-on-one time with your body as often as you’d like.
Of course, if you’re new to masturbating, that’s perfectly OK. Just remember that there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate, so take your time exploring your body and all those things that turn you on.
Experiment with styles, toys, and techniques. Do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable, and enjoy every second of it!
Subs Are in Charge
Although bottoms feign subservience, the irony of BDSM is that the sub is in charge. Bottoms can invoke the stop signal and tops vow to obey immediately. Meanwhile, tops act dominant, but they must also be caring and nurturing, taking bottoms to their agreed-upon limit, but never beyond it. In this way, BDSM provides an opportunity for everyone to experiment with taking and surrendering power, while always feeling safe and cared for. People who enjoy BDSM say it results in amazing erotic intensity.